Bride Honoring Ceremony

When you think of the long list of things that need to be done when preparing for a wedding it can become very overwhelming. Although I have yet to be the bride I have been in my share of weddings to see this first hand. There’s the dress, location, flowers, invitations…. Finally, towards the end comes a bit of fun with celebrating the bride. Last weekend I had the pleasure of performing a Bride Honoring Ceremony that I created for a dear friend of mine. It was very heart warming to see a group of women come together to praise, care for and honor another as she prepares to take the next step in her journey.

The ceremony started with the guest of honor receiving a half hour massage. She was under a lot of stress with how everything was coming together and had never had received a massage before.  When she came out of the relaxing massage she was presented with a lovely floral crown made by the other ladies. Wearing the crown of flowers Resized_20160724_152851symbolizes the feminine goddess that is in each of us.

Each of the girls then presented her with a message stone; explaining why they chose that word for her. They shared a memory of themselves with the bride. Some were funny while others were sentimental but what made them special is that they were uniquely personal. At the end of the presentations each girl give the bride to be a blessing to accompany her as she continues her journey.

The next part of the ceremony is something just for the bride. I performed a fear release ritual for her. For this she wrote dowPART_1469471442891_Resized_20160724_154903n whatever fears or stresses she had in any area of her life. It didn’t have to be wedding related. After she was done writing we then burned  the paper while visualizing the stress and fear releasing with the flames.

The end of the ceremony unites the girls with strings. We created a web of yarn the connected each girl as they wrapped it around their ankles. Once every one was connected, stResized_20160724_160728(1)arting with the bride, they one by one cut the yarn and tied it to create an anklet. The ladies will stay united with the anklets being wore until the day of the wedding to symbolize being their for her on her journey.

I am so thankful I was able to offer this to my friend. One of the things I am very passionate about is bringing ceremony into every occasion. Often times we get caught up in what is expected of us that we lose sight of the real meaning. A Bride Honoring Ceremony deeper level of celebration to a woman’s journey.

If you are looking to add ceremony to your everyday check out my post about tea ceremonies here


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Honoring Your Birth With Ceremony

In many societies birth has become a little misguided- babies are conceived, carried and birthed but the beauty, power and significance of these stages become hidden. In our American culture this is very much the case. Women often times are rushed back into the work force. Some even as early as 4-6 weeks postpartum. Through this rush to get back to the routine the holistic significance of what a woman has endured for the past 9-10 months gets devalued and side-tracked. Often times this can leave in its place a broken path and sense of trauma.


It is through ceremony that many cultures have used for generations that we will find honor, respect, and nourishment for the whole birth process. The most important aspect of this process being the vulnerability  of a woman as she transitions into motherhood.

Honoring and closing one’s birth process is critical for many reasons.

  • Energetically it finishes the birth process
  • Physically it heals  the body
  • Spiritually is prepares the for the step into motherhood.


What does an honoring ceremony look like?

In the co1432924490097mfort of the woman’s home the ceremony will begin with a ceremonial cleansing bath to honor and recognize the mother’s strength and sacrifice she endured birthing her child.

Once she has emerged from her bath A therapeutic massage will be performed with warming oils. The massage will end with an abdominal hot stone press massage. This is performed with a hot stone and healing herbs. With the massage complete the mother is now ready for the Tuck In Sealing Ceremony.tuck in

After resting comfortably the honoring ceremony finishes with an application of a belly Firming paste followed by a Bengkung Belly Binding Session. Once the woman is bound and feels adequately supported she will walk a path lined with rose petals and be presented with her baby. She is now ready to fully step into her tole as a mother.

The mother will be left witbelly bindingh a special journal in which she may write her birth story. At a date of her choosing a tea ceremony will be prepared as a backdrop to listen to yer birth experience.

Remember we all deserve to be honored for our unique experiences. Weather you are preparing to be a first time mother,  have had multiple children, or perhaps your children are grown. It is never to late to honor your body for the service it has provided. tea time


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